Trying to separate and getting divorced is one of the worst periods in life. It’s another difficult task to partner with your co-parent to raise safe, caring and happy children despite your separation. But it’s doable, as can be attested by many happy adult divorced parents children.
There are four good and positive tips for co-parenting to get you started. These will help you learn how to co-parent to provide a healthy and successful childhood for your children. Even though you’re not both living under the same roof anymore, you can keep us working as a team by using these positive co-parenting techniques.
- Watch What You Say. You can chat about your new wife and your ex. But this is the DAD and stepmom of your son. So, be pretty. Keep the tongue. It doesn’t matter how difficult it is. Regardless of how much you think he’s a dick and pressing your buttons. Tap your intuition to think about how you’d react if one of your loved family members acted harshly, or even refused to talk to another one of your loved family members. If nothing else, be thankful to your ex for not having the most precious gift of your child without him.
- Don’t expect a change in your ex. Driving your punctual nature batty was he always late? Okay, guess what, it doesn’t mean that this will change simply because you’re divorced. He will still behave the same way. Don’t personally take it. He’s not deliberately doing it. That’s the way he’s. And I guess these behaviors are some of the reasons you’re not married anymore. Discover and let go of that inner peace. If you don’t, anger, hostility, and tension will continue to fill your co-parenting relationship.
- Recognize that your co-parent is a human being and a parent. He’s not the only one. He could allow the children to stay up too late. For lunch, he might let them eat cake. He may forget to tell you about the cancelation of the soccer game. Seek not to judge yourself. You know how difficult it can be to be a mother. You’ll feel so much better if you have the other parent’s realistic expectations.
- Understand the natural development of children. For children at a young age, separation anxiety is normal, middle school-aged children prefer to spend time with peers over family, and sometimes teens want to spend as little time as possible with their parents. Do not fall into the trap of attributing these issues to something that is wrong with you or your husband. If when it’s time to go to dad’s, your two-year-old throws a tantrum, remember this has nothing to do with dad. If you left them with a sitter, your child could react the same way.
It’s not easy at all. Parenting is a tough job. Take the step for smalls to learn to be a co-parent more supportive and caring. Your kids are going to benefit. You’re going to feel better. And your ex might just respond by being more friendly as well as more understanding.